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  • Hardcover
  • 304 pages
  • Stuck in the Middle With You
  • Jennifer Finney Boylan
  • English
  • 06 June 2015
  • 9780767921763

10 thoughts on “Stuck in the Middle With You

  1. Kaethe Douglas Kaethe Douglas says:

    Finney Boylan is now my favorite memoir writer Dogs and ghosts await me and that is very happy making newsLibrary copy

  2. Monika Monika says:

    I read Jennifer Finney Boylan's memoir She's Not There A Life in Two Genders years ago and was uite moved by it I was excited to receive an advance copy of her new memoir Stuck in the Middle with You A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders which releases later this monthBoylan's voice is kind open hearted and never judgmental There is a touching example of this right away in the memoir's first several pages Boylan is not a radical militant activist; she's not trying to win our approval She is simply herself No matter how different the reader may feel heshe is from the author it uickly becomes apparent that we and our families are all nontraditional in our own way; but we have so much in commonBoylan has a way of pinpointing just how profound some moments in a parent's life are She speaks of parenting in such an honest open way She is brave enough to say things I wish other parents would admit often I highlighted so many sentences that were an encouragement to me as a momThis memoir is a thoughtful exploration of the way gender roles affect the way we view ourselves as parents and the way we view our own parents What ualities make a woman a mother? A man a father? What criteria should we use to define ourselves and where should that come from? Although Boylan's transition from man to woman may have sparked these uestions I found it worthwhile to allow myself to challenge common attitudes and responses Often the things people typically use to define womanhood for example alienate large groups of women myself included Boylan has an incredibly balanced view fair to all and shows how gender is a much complex topic than many have consideredI loved the layout of the book Boylan breaks up her own narration with time outs that made me chuckle featuring interviews with others about their own families She didn't need to do this Her writing feels very fresh and would have been just as much a joy to read straight through But it worked and it was nice to have that change of pace periodically The people she interviewed Augusten Burroughs Richard Russo and Ann Beattie to name only a few are incredibly varied in their experiences but these conversations also gradually and gently exposed common threads I also enjoyed the afterword Anna uindlen's interview with Jenny and her wife Deedie; it made me want to reread She's Not ThereBoylan's reflections on parenting are frank and deeply perceptive I laughed and I cried Stuck in the Middle with You is a powerful book that encourages us to be true to ourselves and connect with each other not through labels but as fellow human beings I received a copy of this book from the publisher via Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review I did not receive any other compensation for this review

  3. Ellie Ellie says:

    Stuck in the Middle with You A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders is the memoir of Jennifer Finney Boylan that reflects upon her role as parent and how it did or did not change as the result of her transition from male to female Boylan has written elsewhere of her transgender issues and her focus here is primarily on to what degree if any it has impacted upon her parenting Boylan has remained married to her pre transition spouse and the book touches lightly upon the experience this has been for the wife Deedee in this relationship On the whole Boylan concludes her gender change does not seem to have had a negative impact on her sonsThe narrative an able accounting of the experience of parenting for anyone is interspersed with interviews from friends of Boylan writers such as Edward Albee Richard Russo and Ann Beattie as well as the experience of a former nanny of Boylan's The interviewees reflect on their experience of either being parented or being parents and on their decisions to have or not have children of their ownStuck in the Middle with You A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders is an engaging if not compelling book that hangs somewhat loosely on the thread of Boylan's transgender experience and even loosely on the general experience of family I would have wished for a coherent reflection on any one of these issues but as it is I enjoyed the book and found myself feeling as though I knew Boylan and her family personally What comes across clearly to me is that the experience of parenting has to do with love and caring than it does with gender

  4. Bonnie G. Bonnie G. says:

    In return for my honest review I received this book free from Librarything Early Reviewers This did not affect my reviewSothis was disappointing I loved Boylan's first memoirShe's Not There A Life in Two Genders This book started out with promise but I had a number of issues with it in the end Boylan actually writes very little about parenting or family Her kids are exuisitely well adjusted and high achieving Neither she nor her wife are particularly troubled by the fact that they haven't had sex since the transition and will never have sex again because who needs sex when there is love? Yeah right Boylan tells a few VERY select stories and augments this very skimpy memoir with interviews with well known literary folks These interviews are ostensibly sometimes actually centered on parenting and on being parented Other than learning that Edward Albee a playwright whose work I have loved was an asshat these interviews taught me nothing The interviews did not broaden or inform my view of parenting They were frankly really bad Boylan has done some reporting so I would have expected her to be a better interviewer I think when friends interview friends it doesn't work Anyone who has read Interview Magazine knows this Whatever the reason these interviews are awfulFocusing on the fact the interviews were not done well raises the uestion of whether the interviews belong in this book I say they do not This book holds itself out as a memoir of parenting as a trans woman and it is not The only material which really covers this are a few stories about how Jenny is worried that her transition will create issues Of course it is all in her head and her children are really truly 100% unaffected by her decision to transition That may be how she chooses to see it but kids are judged by their peers all the time That judgment includes peers' views of parents I am not saying in any way that her kids are going to be screwed up by her transition I am not even saying they might not grow to be better men because of it I am just saying she is claiming that the transition did not affect her sons in any way and I am not buying what she is selling A honest discussion would have been both interesting and educational and empowering for parents raising their children in non traditional environmentsIn the end this book came off as lazy and dishonest and that is a shame Boylan is a great writer and she has life experience which could have been turned into a really good book Oh well 2 kids in elite colleges costs I wish the family well they seem like nice people

  5. Asho Asho says:

    First let me say that I enjoyed Boylan's writing style The memoir chapters in this book left me hungry for of her stories and experiences I also enjoyed the interviews and was impressed by the caliber of featured interview subjects also wow some people have horrendous parentsI was disappointed though that this book seemed to only skim the surface of uestions of gender and parenting roles I wish Boylan had done exploration of traditional gender roles In trying to make the point that there aren't big differences generally speaking and certainly not harmful ones in what mothers do and fathers do she ended up not actually talking much about parenting I am not sure I am making much sense hereI suppose I just wanted of the nitty gritty This was about the emotions of parenting than the practicalities of parenting and I wish I had heard about the whole picture For instance I have no idea from reading this if Boylan felt the pressure many female academics feel as they try to balance work and family pressure that in my experience at least seems largely absent for males Not that men don't want to be with their families and raise their children just that society still doesn't expect them to take on that role in as all encompassing a way as we expect it of females I would have loved to hear about how transitioning affected the worklife balance and her perception of traditional male roles of family breadwinner head of household etc Basically where was the explanation of the traditional gender roles? I suppose Boylan's basic point was Those roles shouldn't matter because in the end parents are parents no matter the sexgender And yet its idealistic to say that they don't matter They do because they still exist to some degree and I wish she had grappled with them a bit because she's in a uniue position of having experienced parenthood and academia as both a father and a motherAlso Boylan makes the point in the post book interview that it is her story to tell not her wife's Fair enough However I think when talking about parenting the best judge of how a parent has ultimately done at hisher task is the testimony of hisher children It doesn't matter how I perceive my role as a mother or how great a parent others think I am if my own son disagrees So in this case I think perhaps this memoir was a bit premature I wish Boylan had waited to write it until her sons were older and established in their own lives and careers if I gather correctly they are late high school age maybe early college age at oldest I'd love to know what they would say about their upbringing I doubt it would contradict Boylan's story but I'd still like the nuanced view I think her kids could bring to the tableOverall this book didn't uite hit the spot 100% but it did leave me wanting to explore of Boylan's writing particularly her earlier memoir

  6. Melissa T Melissa T says:

    This was an interesting look at gender identity and how that changed for Jennifer Finney Boylan as she transitioned from male to femaleShe looked at it from an interesting perspective Am I still the same parent I was when I used to be their father?Of course not everything was the same Her wife had to adjust to losing a husband her sons to losing a father But they gained as they put it aMaddy half mommy half daddy and I think that had a profoundly positive effect on them Boylan's sons are sensitive caring well rounded individuals And so wise Some of the things they said as little boys just got me right in the heartBoylan portrays both sides of the issue even within her own life She had family who was supportive and family who was not She had situations where she was comfortable inher womanhood and situations where she wasn'tOverall I enjoyed looking at this as well as the other perspectives she covered on parenthood with the essays from others she included Though if I'm honest they were actually my least favorite part of the book I felt that her story of her family was enough to hold up the book The essays felt like a distraction to me

  7. Leslie Leslie says:

    I won this book from a goodreads first reads giveaway It has in no way influenced my opinion In college I had a class where a transgendered male to female came in and told her story I remember that my friend and I were uite fascinated You hear about it but to see it right in front of your face really opens your eyes It was one of the experiences from college that really stayed with me They are just regular people So I was interested in what this book would be about It fell really flat for me One of my pet peeves about reading is when I'm being told a story but in the middle of that story another story starts Before that second story finishes I have completely forgotten what the initial story is I then have to try hard to remember what the beginning was when we get back into the original story Sound confusing? It is It's annoying I don't like when authors do this over and over This happens a lot in this book It was just really dry and it honestly took me a long time to get through this book The most interesting part of this book is really all the interviews with all of her friends Their life story about their parents and some of the things they have gone through to be parents themselves To me that was the core of this book The rest of the stories about Jenny felt like just fluff to fill pages It was also a bit annoying to have the interview at the end with Deedie and Jenny and just focus on the first book I didn't read the first book so I had no idea what they were talking about That interview should have been at the back of the first book not this one Overall this book was just okay

  8. Kate Kate says:

    This book is like a uilt woven from many different pieces I was surprised to find especially pleasurable the interludes of interviews with various literary figures and other people in Jenny's life It felt like I was sitting in the room with them as they talked about family gender literature lifeAnd then there's the other related focus of the book Jenny's relationship with her kids and spouse before and after her gender reassignment These parts are written with such tenderness vulnerability and humor hallmarks of Jenny's other book I read She's Not ThereAnother pleasure of this book for me as a writer is the fun way she weaves literary references into the book and how I got to sit in on conversations between her and other writers such as Agustin Burroughs Edward Albee and Anne BeattieThere are a lot of moving parts to this book and I enjoyed the way the various aspects themes emerged It reminded me there are as many ways to write a book as there are writers and as many ways to live as there are people

  9. Rebecca Treiman Rebecca Treiman says:

    a just ok memoir about a father who changed to a mother Sounds like a topic that one would remember reading about but I suspect that I'll forget this book very soon

  10. Mell Mell says:

    Full of good insights and some laugh out loud moments Boylan is never afraid of admitting and spotlighting her humanity and flaws She's relatable I found the author interview chapters a bit disruptive and some were real duds for me I most enjoyed the author's family interactions and discussions about gender non conformity kindness and embracing life

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Stuck in the Middle With You❮Epub❯ ➟ Stuck in the Middle With You Author Jennifer Finney Boylan – New York Times bestseller and acclaimed author Jennifer Finney Boylan returns with a remarkable memoir about gender and parenting including incredible interviews discussing gender how families are sha New York Times bestseller and acclaimed the Middle Kindle Ö author Jennifer Finney Boylan returns with a remarkable memoir about gender and parenting including incredible interviews discussing gender how families are shaped and the difficulties and wonders of being humanA father for ten years a mother for eight and for a time in between neither or both the parental version of the schnoodle or the cockapoo Jennifer Finney Boylan has seen parenthood from both sides of the gender divide When her two children were young Boylan came out as transgender and Stuck in Epub / as Jenny transitioned from a man to a woman and from a father to a mother her family faced uniue challenges and uestions In this thoughtful tear jerking hilarious memoir Jenny asks what it means to be a father or a mother and to what extent gender shades our experiences as parents It is my hope she writes that having a father who became a woman in turn helped my sons become better menThrough both her own story and incredibly insightful interviews with others including Richard Russo Edward in the Middle eBook ↠ Albee Ann Beattie Augusten Burroughs Susan Minot Trey Ellis Timothy Kreider and Jenny examines relationships with fathers and mothers people's memories of the children they were and the parents they became and the many different ways a family can be Followed by an Afterword by Anna uindlen that includes Jenny and her wife discussing the challenges they've faced and the love they share Stuck in the Middle With You is a brilliant meditation on raising – and on being – a child.

About the Author: Jennifer Finney Boylan

Jennifer Finney Boylan is a widely the Middle Kindle Ö praised author and professorEdward Albee summed up her oeuvre in Boylan observes carefully and with love Her levitating wit is wisely tethered to a humane concern I often broke into laughter and was now and again struck with wonderJenny's memoir She's Not There published by Broadway Books in was one of the first bestselling works by a.